one false move
for most of the way, one false move is taut and sure - footed .
all it takes to bring him down is one bullet... one woman or... one false move .
really good post. i’ve had the “one false move” mentality all or most of my life .
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clark franklin' s one false move brings a shotgun to a knife fight, and the results aren' t pretty .
one false move trailer 1992 director: carl franklin starring: bill paxton, cynda williams, michael beach, jim metzler, billy bob thornton, official content from sony pictures home entertainment los angeles drug dealers, two men and a woman, flee for the girl' s hometown in arkansas after becoming embroiled in murder. movie, one false move movie, one false move trailer, one false move 1992, carl franklin, bill paxton, cynda williams, michael beach, jim metzler, billy bob thornton ,
franklin' s convincing portrait of life on both sides of the color line isn' t quite like anything i' ve come across before, making one false move one very assured directorial move. we need more filmmakers like him .
the ending has me in tears! oh my lord, one false move is a recommendation for all. bill paxton is so good in this, ugh .
the biggest difference between one false move and most other action films is the sting in its violence. there is so little stylization here - - so little gimmickry - - that when someone is shot or knifed, you feel it .
likewise, one must give up rationality if one is to live life as a passionate, highly motivated person would .
july 18, 1992, praised the film :
' one false move' is a thriller with a hair - trigger sense of tension. directed by newcomer carl franklin, its power comes from the stripped - down simplicity of its style and the unblinking savagery of its violence .
it' s natural to react strongly to unjust criticism, but this is rarely a wise career move .
i am so fed up that one false move from the other party and i run like the dickens. seriously, i hardly blame myself anymore…i chuck up the deuces and bounce as soon as i smell a rotten fish trying play a silly game. chuck up those deuces, ladies, bounce !
and this is where you can learn something else about blame and this whole one false move mentality – blame is about thinking about, in fact often ruminating over what you feel that you could have prevented if you had acted differently, been different, or said something else. it’s clutching at straws .
one false move
is a thriller with a hair - trigger sense of tension. directed by newcomer carl franklin, its power comes from the stripped - down simplicity of its style and the unblinking savagery of its violence. franklin' s approach to violence isn' t voluptuous or romantic; it' s harsh and unfussy and realistic. without its lethal edge, this story about a drug deal gone sour might seem routine, just another drug movie. but this ruthless element, along with a handful of impressive performances, separates
one false move
from the other films in its genre. it creates its own grim space .
that was the last straw, i told him to move on and don’t look / call / text / write again .
blame is very much about taking other people’s inadequacies and then equating this to you being inadequate as if you’re provoking it. the whole one false move mentality gives you this almighty power born of your ‘worth’ that causes a chain reaction of catastrophic events. then you say “i’m not good enough. this all happened because of me. ” really ?
yet no words of praise can quite reflect the seductive strength of “one false move, ” which begins as a crime story and ends as a human story in which everything that happens depends on the personalities of the characters. it' s so rare to find a film in which the events are driven by people, not by chases or special effects .
yep, i have the book and it shocked me at how accurate it is about my experience. (i’ve mentioned my mother on here a few times .) i still haven’t finished it; i wasn’t “ready” yet but now i think that i am. this definitely contributes to the “one false move” mentality & does lots of damage, some irreparable .
learner, where you are now i think is ‘normal’ for this stage of nc; you will move beyond this. take heart .
a superbly understated thriller from director carl franklin, an afi graduate whose previous work was limited to roger corman outings like nowhere to run and full fathom five. one false move opens in suburban los angeles with the brutal murder of several family members and friends as part of a cash and cocaine robbery. the culprits are an interracial trio... read more
the one false move mentality is when you have an inclination to make things that aren’t about you about you and you work off this idea that if you hadn’t done this or you hadn’t been that, or you’d said this or that, or you’d just been a ‘worthy’ ‘enough’ person then x wouldn’t have happened – x is the other person’s behaviour or a situation .
one false move is a quintessential neo - noir film. had it been released in the 1940s or 1950s, with some small tweaks, it would have been right at home. in 1992, it served as a last beacon of a bygone era in film. directed by carl franklin, one false move is a southern - set film about three people - ray malcolm (billy bob thornton), fantasia (cynda williams), and pluto (michael beach) - that kill six people and rip off a drug dealer. headed to star city, arkansas after hoping to have sold the drugs in houston, lapd detectives dud cole (jim metzler) and john mcfeely (earl billings) head to arkansas to wait for them. in arkansas, they are greeted by dale
hurricane
…
the “one false move” mentality is such a heavy burden to carry. i think that it’s natural to feel that way every once in a while, but it’s important to realize the truth sooner rather than later and, like natalie said, “what they should be doing is a mix of being realistic and looking beyond their own perspective as well as where appropriate, taking responsibility for their own actions. ”
typically, the presence of one error means that there are other errors to be uncovered .
thank you atrophy for this. i hope one day soon i will be at this stage .
when boating, use common sense. have one life preserver for each person in the boat .
“one false move” begins in los angeles with a series of brutal murders of people in the drug underworld. three people are involved: two men who have teamed up to steal drugs and money, and the girlfriend of one of them. they' re played by billy bob thornton as a violent, insecure red - neck type; cynda williams as his lover, a black woman obviously deeply wounded in the past, and michael beach as the partner, a black man whose wire - rim glasses and impassive reserve conceal a capacity for sudden, cold violence .
carl franklin' s career has been mostly in acting until now, on stage and in several tv series. he directed some low - budget exploitation films, attended the american film institute and then got “one false move” as his first substantial film project. it is a powerful directing job. he starts with an extraordinary screenplay and then finds the right tones and moods for every scene, realizing it' s not the plot we care about, it' s the people .
there' s no other explanation as to why a film as outstanding as one false move, which was critically acclaimed on its release, has become almost completely forgotten. i mean, it went straight to video here in the uk and only really gained any attention over here due to an extended run of screenings by sky movies, and it was about to get the same treatment in the usa before enthusiastic reviews from the likes of gene siskel persuaded distributors into giving it a…
here is a crime movie that lifts you up and carries you along in an ominously rising tide of tension, building to an emotional payoff of amazing power. on the very short list of great movies about violent criminals, “one false move” deserves a place of honor, beside such different kinds of films as “ in cold blood, ” “ henry: portrait of a serial killer, ” “ badlands, ” “the executioner' s song” and “ at close range. ” it is a great film - one of the best of the year - and announces the arrival of a gifted director, carl franklin .
when towing a water skier, use common sense. have one person watching the skier at all times .
the claim that whatever has not yet been proved false must be true (or vice versa). essentially the arguer claims that he should win by default if his opponent can' t make a strong enough case .
blame is like a magic eraser that removes all other parties and absolves them of the blame while you’re at it, taking you out of reality. responsibility and reality not only paints them back into the picture and let’s you own your own stuff without seeing yourself as being intrinsically linked to them, but it lets you move on instead of remaining stuck on the one thing that really wasn’t the one thing .
if one does not understand a debate, it must be
fair
to split the difference, and agree on a compromise between the opinions. (but one side is very possibly wrong, and in any case one could simply suspend judgment .) journalists often invoke this fallacy in the name of
balanced
coverage .
paxton re - teamed with his one false move co - star billy bob thornton for director sam raimi’s excellent, underrated adaptation of scott b. smith’s acclaimed thriller novel. though they were playing minnesotans instead of southerners, the actors drew on their common middle - american roots to bring life to the roles of two working - class brothers who stumble onto a dead body – and millions of dollars. paxton’s hank mitchell is the smarter of the two siblings, and the one with the stronger conscience, making this another perfect part for him: a quietly decent man of action whose knitted brow and thoughtful stare reveal every worry and calculation. nm
ellyb – i still catch myself saying “i feel so stupid! ” when i get sick. like intelligence has anything to do with it! lol! i stop the thought and move on .
similarly, in
the mythology of modern dating methods
( john woodmorappe, 1999) we find on page 42 that two scientists
cannot agree
about which one of two geological dates is
real
and which one is
spurious
. woodmorappe fails to mention that the two dates differ by less than one percent .
21. learning to receive false criticism—feedback that has no constructive value—without losing your confidence is a must if you want to do big things in life. the more attention your work receives, the more criticism you’ll have to field .
living in the past and reliving hurts and rejections because you’re hanging yourself on one false move serves you no purpose, not least because you fail to see the wood for the trees. yeah, maybe you could have said / done something different, but that would only affect you and in a relationship that wasn’t working for you anyway, it might have meant you wouldn’t have been it in the first place. people work off their own motivations and agendas and so whatever and whoever they are is based on what they’re already inclined to do .
we can’t control what other people will say to us. but we can control how we internalize it, respond to it, and learn from it, and when we release it and move on .
demke – i hear ya. i get the same crap – say something in the wrong tone…done. say how you feel…done. you are exactly right – you didn’t do something horrible (like cheat, or lie, etc .)! you were just being you trying to protect you. and we cannot continue to be “punished” for being a human being with human emotions and the human capacity to make mistakes. in a relationship no one is perfect and if you can’t say something wrong, apologize for it and be forgiven then it’s not a relationship. i am in the same situation and feel like i am constantly walking on egg shells having to be perfect and basically holding in my every instinct to love the only way i know how out of fear of making “one false move. ” not to mention if i do make a false move and apologize, it comes up in every disagreement. he never moves on from anything and uses it as ammunition the next time. it’s a horrible cycle that hurts like hell. good luck on your nc. i am working on getting there myself .
“by the way, i saw a comment of mine from two years ago from a link, where i wasn’t in a relationship and at that time had no intention of being in a relationship. and now i am in one. the most peaceful one i have been in for about twenty years. and the only one where our values chime. ”
after a couple minutes of verbal sparring, one of my peers actually said, “stop talking. you’re embarrassing yourself. ”
the movie' s fevered early scenes set the heightened emotional tone. franklin' s method in these sequences is surreptitious and detached; the shock of the brutality may sneak up on you, as it does when pluto casually places a pillowcase over each of his victims' heads and coolly stabs them to death. but this bloody matter - of - factness is the film' s most startling twist. like
henry: portrait of a serial killer ,
one false move
gets its effects by virtue of an almost surgical clinicism; it has a reportorial feel, a sense of verite immediacy .
carl franklin made his directorial bow with the story of three la drug dealers who, after committing a rather messy murder, hide out in a rural arkansas town. assuming that the local
rubes
will offer them little interference, the criminals have not reckoned with sheriff
hurricane
dixon (bill paxton). despite the arrogance of the lapd agents sent to arkansas to collar the crooks, it is down - home dixon who puts the final bloody showdown into motion (the fact that the thieves have been falling out throughout the film doesn' t hurt things either). carl franklin knows where he' s going in every frenetic frame of one false move, and his movie was one of the most acclaimed independent releases of 1991 .
similarly, all piles of stones are small, since if you add one stone to a small pile of stones it remains small .
or :
after treatment with the drug, one - third of the mice were cured, one - third died, and the third mouse escaped .
does this mean that if we treated a thousand mice, 333 would be cured? well, no .
if you go from one idea to the next quickly enough, the audience won' t have time to think. this is connected to
one of the strengths of the film is the way it draws its interpersonal relationships. as the thornton and williams characters veer unhappily between protestations of love and outbursts of accusations, beach sits quietly to one side - on a motel bed, in the back seat of the car - talking in a low, controlled voice. most of what he says makes sense, and is disregarded. meanwhile, in arkansas, the two visiting cops, one black, one white, joke about the aspirations of the local lawman, whom they see as a naive greenhorn .
thank all of you guys for your support. it means a lot. i know many people have made mistakes before, and that we should stop thinking it was all our fault and what false move we could take back. yes, he cheated on her and used me and the next morning told me off and cooked her breakfast. good grief. maybe this needed to happen to make me really change my life. because although i was nc, i didn’t do much else to work on myself. i am really trying to let go of my need to see him face consequences. it is hard though, when i feel as though he is the “winner” who got what he wanted and gets to keep his life as is. i am trying to move on, guys, i really am .
thanks for the advice grace. i am now trying to heal from this & move on. i’m pulling the mental flush handle as nat puts it. i’m not wasting anymore time & on this eum / assclown. i’ve done nc now for over 3 weeks .
what we' ve seen here are two cases of unfair criticism – one from a colleague, and one from a boss. what do you do now? how you react to it can have a tremendous impact on your career. emotionally charged, your instincts may not be the best guide to follow .
using what you are trying to disprove. that is, requiring the truth of something for your proof that it is false. for example, using science to show that science is wrong. or, arguing that you do not exist, when your existence is clearly required for you to be making the argument .
it’s a lambasting of the disney princess tradition, and theoretically a fairly incisive one. you shouldn’t marry a man you just met. it’s unquestionably stupid, and poking fun at the fact that disney has been not - so - subtly encouraging that approach for decades is a smart move. i mean, come on: how many disney princesses or leading ladies have fallen in love at first sight with a man they barely know ?
23. learning to move forward after criticism, even if you don’t feel incredibly confident, ensures that no isolated comment will prevent you from seizing your dreams. think of it as separating the wheat from the chaff; takes what’s useful, leave the rest, and keep going !
usually, the best way to cope with insults is to show mild amusement, and remain polite. a humorous comeback will probably work better than an angry one .
assuming that because two things happened, the first one caused the second one. (sequence is not causation .) for example ,
before women got the vote, there were no nuclear weapons .
or ,
every time my brother bill accompanies me to fenway park, the red sox are sure to lose .
in the interest of weighting this as far towards the perceived disney mould as possible, i have one more table for you. in this one, i’ve put the animal features back in, and i’m now counting out every feature with a love story that ends in a happily ever after. a traditional, heterosexual happily ever after, i should qualify, though it’s not like disney is likely to actually attempt a same - sex love story any time soon. or ever. here’s how that one tallies up :
anyway, here it is. i seriously recommend it for every one of you: will i ever be good enough? healing the daughers of narcissistic mothers karyl mcbride, phd
. for example, the tv commercial which starts
i' m not a doctor, but i play one on tv .
just what are we supposed to conclude ?
i think, ok i know, that i was supposed to mature out of this and get a better perspective about responsibility and where i fit into the picture of other people’s behaviour or external factors and situations, but the truth is, to some extent i kept up this line of thinking until i was 28 when it was pointed out to me that it was pretty outrageous for me to still be thinking, albeit unconsciously, that a three year old was responsible for her parents not being together. i had a one false move & it’s all my fault mentality and every day i come across people who insist on taking the blame for other people’s behaviour and entire situations, when what they should be doing is a mix of being realistic and looking beyond their own perspective as well as where appropriate, taking responsibility for their own actions .
step one: go to www. random. org. step two: pick a number. step three: get weird! * * nobody cares if you don' t think…
that toxic deputy team leader i’ve mentioned is currently away, but i’m having a hard time with others too. when i rejoined our team after several years abroad, they treated me like a doormat, even if i’m one of the most experienced (and probably also one of the most knowledgeable) team members. i don’t brag about that and try not to act “bossy”. when they started treating me like a doormat, i even tried to act like one in order to be a “good girl”, but it felt horrible after a while .
it is also possible to lower the bar, reducing the burden on an argument. for example, a person who takes vitamin c might claim that it prevents colds. when they do get a cold, then they move the goalposts, by saying that the cold would have been much worse if not for the vitamin c .
ray, fantasia and pluto arrive in houston to sell the drugs as planned. fantasia takes a bus to star city. angry that their buyers are reneging on the previously agreed upon price for the cocaine, pluto and ray kill them and flee. they drive to star city to meet up with fantasia and plan their next move .
one quick note before i continue — even though it’s technically a pixar film, i’ll be counting brave from this point on, since merida has been officially inducted into the disney princess lineup .
and this is where i wonder whether i was watching the same movie as everyone else. let’s start with elsa, for once. what is her goal? does she even have one ?
the problem is that this company is one of the best in my field (highest reputation – almost mythical). furthermore, there aren’t many jobs in my field, and it’s very competitive .
around the year 400, saint augustine wrote two books, de mendacio [ on lying ] and contra medacium [ against lying ], on this subject. he argued that the sin isn' t in what you do (or don' t) say, but in your intent to leave a false impression. he strongly opposed pious fraud. i believe that martin luther also wrote on the subject .
using a word to mean one thing, and then later using it to mean something different. for example, sometimes
free software
costs nothing, and sometimes it is without restrictions. some examples :
i knew several years ago after a break - up, when i was just pissed, that i didn’t want to be angry anymore, and that i had to learn how to take responsibility somehow for my actions because blaming was getting me nowhere. i just didn’t quite know how too. unfortunately, i learned the lesson through a job loss and a break up, where a boss and former ac were all too happy to let me absorb all responsibility and on one false move. (or so i was lead to believe .) i spent many hours ruminating / analyzing / bring / counseling and learned the lesson that i so much appreciated in one of natalie’s recent posts of taking my share of responsibility — and allowing others to take their share (even when they aren’t willing). i learned to recognize that ones who are angry, blaming, and failing to take responsibility for their part in relationships, is a red flag and a guarantee they’ll let me “do the dirty work”, a job that i just won’t do any more. and an assignment that i try hard at not giving anyone else. a very painful year but i’m so grateful for this lesson. thanks for this awesome post !
for example ,
no one knows how old the pyramids of egypt are .
( except, of course, for the historians who' ve read records and letters written by the ancient egyptians themselves. )
your immediate response is the most important one – it has the greatest scope for making things worse or better. here' s our recommended approach to overcome the natural urge to express your anger or fight back .
if you remain convinced that his criticisms fall wide of the mark, and he persists in making them, try graciously, through one - on - one meetings, to bring him round to your view. failing that, you might request a meeting with someone higher up the ladder. in doing so, though, recognize that you risk undermining your position further. again, make your case as calmly and rationally as possible .
in other words, once one recognizes that thoughts, feelings, and desires function as inseparable reciprocal sets in human life, then no theory of brain that separates them off into compartments will adequately account for the mind, as we know it. of course, we can make sense of
balancing
two different lines of thought constructed by the mind looking at something from two different points of view. this
balancing
is the product of one cognitive - affective construct against another one. it is not a balancing of the cognitive (conceived as a thing in itself) with the affective (conceived as a different thing in itself) .
a bit of humor mixed in with all this no - nonsense violence and a surprising emotional punch or two make this one worth seeing. but really, it' s all about billy bob thornton' s ponytail .
one of the problems we get from growing up in traumatic, invalidating environments is that we feel we are robbed of all our options, our tools. ellyb, you have more options and tools than you know .
maria h, i would like to inquire further about your situation. (and anyone else please comment as well) i’ve been seeing my guy for almost 8 months and i’m feeling a sublte shift. after my epiphany relationshit, i spent a year working on me. and was doing very well. then i met the bf. he’s been wonderful. we’ve taken things slow and communicated well. it’s been very healthy. so i’m having trouble putting my finger on what’s changed exactly. i now feel i’m standing in a mine field and “one false move”…… boom. we had a talk a few days ago and it went well but i’m leary of the slow fade. (i got that move before) so now i feel weird and uncomfortable. (cue self - esteem issues) i don’t want to be insecure, negative, or hypersensitive and reactionary. i know that’s not attractive. nor healthy for me. so now i’m struggling with keeping myself positive when what i really want to do is tell him to speak up or f * ck off. before he can downgrade me and waste more of my time. (feelin’ you there, skepticrina) and that sounds ott, even to my own ears considering he’s been great. i reread some br posts yesterday about fear. which did help. but i’m really interested to know if there were red flags you think you might have missed. flags i may be missing now .
ladies, this is venturing into off topic territory. you’ve both made your points – neither of you need to validate the others perspective or defend your own position. i didn’t do medication but it doesn’t mean that it hasn’t been appropriate to some people’s situations nor does it mean that it’s appropriate for every person who has ever experienced trauma. neither of you are ‘wrong’ so move it along .
this post hit home! ! as so many of nat’s posts do. i needed this one bad! ! been doing good, but every so often my low self - esteem rears it’s ugly little head! uggghhhh !
or another scenario: for a year, you work hard toward meeting your professional goals. things are going well, you' re meeting your targets, and team morale is high. then the hammer drops: at your one - on - one annual review, your boss expresses disappointment in you. despite all indications to the contrary, you' re suddenly in the hot seat – and your boss is telling you so to your face .
you can heal, you are healing. it sounds like your whole industry is rife with abusive egomaniacs. you don’t have to solve everything all at once, be gentle with you and take it one step at a time .
the arguer hasn' t bothered to learn anything about the topic. he nevertheless has an opinion, and will be insulted if his opinion is not treated with respect. for example, someone looked at a picture on one of my
you' re presenting the draft marketing plan for a new product at your team meeting. as you talk, you notice the encouraging gestures of your colleagues and supervisor. but one colleague withholds approval, listening with a steely stare .
ray, fantasia and pluto arrive in houston to sell the drugs as planned. fantasia takes a bus ahead from houston to star city while pluto and ray stay behind to work the deal. the deal goes terribly sour for ray and pluto, who then have to kill three more people and flee the city. the two drive from houston to star city to meet up with fantasia and plan their next move .
turns out he also had a gf already. this was when i was going through a very stressful time, busy with two kids – one of them doing bad at school – and my grandmother who was very sick at the moment .
readers of br who are daughters of narcissistic mothers - i so seriously want to take care of all of you in one big chicked soup - ed love fest. ignored abuses, criticized illnesses, fear, blame, ridicule …. its so awful. i don’t know why i feel your pain so fellingly, one would think it would be worse if you all had narcissistic fathers like i did, but my heart goes out to you especially. maybe that’s my mothering florence nightingale complex…
19. criticism reinforces the power of personal space. taking ten minutes to process your emotions, perhaps by writing in a journal, will ensure you respond well. and responding well the first time prevents one critical comment from dominating your day .
you’re doing fine. just work on that tendency to shame spiral. its a terrible feeling, and you shouldn’t have to feel that way. it just takes tweaks of esteem and confidence and a sense of humor about one’s self to fix it .
btw, when i’ve started opposing eve, for example by being short - spoken when she was being bitchy instead of getting all defensive and sucking up to her, it hurt terribly. one day after work i was in mortal fear. seriously !
mind you, all this hasn’t stopped his attacks. one day he’s attacking me, the next day he’s attacking others. that’s just how he “ticks”. i doubt he’ll ever change his ways. it’s just doesn’t matter to me all that much anymore .
that made me even more self - conscious. on the one hand, i was angry at my coworker, because in essence she blamed me and not him for his crappy behavior. on the other hand i started second - guessing myself (again !) .
ignoring all of the most reasonable explanations. this makes the desired explanation into the only one. for example :
i left a saucer of milk outside overnight. in the morning, the milk was gone. clearly, my yard was visited by fairies .
one of the significant problems in goleman’s writing is his lack of consistency. he contradicts himself, for example, in the major points he makes about the thinking that occurs in the “emotional mind. ” on one hand he states “the amygdala’s extensive web of neural connections allows it, during an emotional emergency, to capture and drive much of the rest of the brain - including the rational mind (p. 17). ” this seems to imply that the emotional mind uses the “thinking mind” to achieve its agendas at times .
assuming that two ends of a spectrum are the same, since one can travel along the spectrum in very small steps. the name comes from the idea that being clean - shaven must be the same as having a big beard, since in - between beards exist .
tinkerbell. don’t blame yourself too much. i think you’re more worried about what he thinks of you than anything. worry more about how you recognize that you feel weak… and that it’s around him and take action… do whatever you need to to feel better, stronger… and eventually you will be okay and move on. and him telling you he “changed” and “loves his new gf very much”, he’s a jerk for even saying that to you. yes, people can change… but. what does it matter if he’s still a jerk to you? guess what? you’ll change too… for the better, if you grow a serious set… and move on. do not contact him. write in a journal instead when you feel like doing that… go for a walk… go to gym, read a book, call a friend. get into the habit of doing something else, every single time you get the urge… and it will start working for you. hugs 🙂
trying to use one cause to explain something, when in fact it had several causes. for example ,
the accident was caused by the taxi parking in the street .
( but other drivers went around the taxi. only the drunk driver hit the taxi. )
those statistics reflect systemic problems. eyewitness testimony is dangerously persuasive to juries, yet it remains admissible in courts almost without caveat. some interrogation methods are more likely than others to produce false confessions, yet there are no national standards; fewer than half of states require interrogations to be videotaped, and all of them allow interrogators to lie to suspects. with the exception of dna evidence (which emerged from biology, not criminology), forensic tests are laughably unscientific; no independent entity exists to establish that such tests are reliable before their results are admissible as evidence .
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assuming that something true in general is true in every possible case. for example ,
all chairs have four legs .
except that rocking chairs don' t have any legs, and what is a one - legged
shooting stick
if it isn' t a chair ?
when searching for the ingredients necessary for a highly rational life, it is therefore crucial not to underestimate the role of the affective dimension of mind. to engage in high quality reasoning, one must have not only the cognitive ability to do so, but the drive to do so as well. one must feel the importance of doing so, and thus be driven to acquire command of the art of high quality reasoning. what is more, it is evident that to learn to solve problems effectively, one must have the desire to do so. one must be committed to it. thus the affective dimension, comprised of feelings and volition, is a necessary condition and component of high quality reasoning and problem solving. every
defect
in emotion and drive creates a
defect
in thought and reason. intelligence on this view, then, presupposes and requires command of the affective dimension of mind. in short, the truly intelligent person is not a disembodied intellect functioning in an emotional wasteland, but a deeply committed mindful person, full of passion and high values, engaged in effective reasoning, sound judgment, and wise conduct .
based on this description of brain activity (and other similar descriptions), he concludes
... we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels... these two fundamentally different ways of knowing interact to construct our mental life (p. 8). ” or again: “in a sense we have two brains, two minds — and two different kinds of intelligence: rational and emotional (p. 28). ” we want to “find the intelligent balance between the two, to harmonize head and heart (p. 29). ”
three criminals, ray, pluto and fantasia (ray' s girlfriend), commit six brutal murders over the course of one night in los angeles as they seek a cache of money and cocaine. the trio leave for houston to sell the cocaine to a friend of pluto' s .
) is to attack a whole class of people. for example ,
evolutionary biology is a sinister tool of the materialistic, atheistic religion of secular humanism .
similarly, one notorious net. kook waved away a whole category of evidence by announcing
all the scientists were drunk .
threats, or even violence. on the net, the usual threat is of a lawsuit. the traditional religious threat is that one will burn in hell. however, history is full of instances where expressing an unpopular idea could you get you beaten up on the spot, or worse .
goleman states that “the beliefs of the rational mind are tentative; new evidence can disconfirm one belief and replace it with a new one - it reasons by objective evidence. the emotional mind, however, takes its beliefs to be absolutely true, and so discounts any evidence to the contrary (p. 295). ” furthermore, he states, “actions that spring from the emotional mind carry a particularly strong sense of certainty, a by - product of a streamlined, simplified way of looking at things that can be absolutely bewildering to the rational mind (p. 291). ”
an example of why absurd conclusions are bad things: bertrand russell, in a lecture on logic, mentioned that in the sense of material implication, a false proposition implies any proposition. a student raised his hand and said
in that case, given that 1 = 0, prove that you are the pope
. russell immediately replied ,
add 1 to both sides of the equation: then we have 2 = 1. the set containing just me and the pope has 2 members. but 2 = 1, so it has only 1 member; therefore, i am the pope .
i had posted here before about being that person who couldn’t take a hint. i was trying to do anything / everything to convince him to date me. i see how foolish it was. i did date someone else for 3 months but flushed after shady behaviour started coming about. (the old me wouldn’t have been able to walk away). all i can say to other readers is that you must make yourself a priority, go through the emotions, move forward, it does get better and life goes on .
which leads me neatly back to frozen, because frozen ’s setting is not explicity patriarchal. i don’t know that having a queen instead of a king is necessarily normal in the world of frozen, but elsa’s coronation certainly isn’t treated as any kind of aberration. women have enough respect and agency in this world that no one particularly comments on arendelle’s being ruled by a woman. no one speculates about whom she’s going to marry or how many sons she’s going to bear; for once, in fact, it’s the man (hans) who has to marry into royalty to have any real power .
journalists are notoriously bad at reporting risks. for example, in 1995 it was loudly reported that a class of contraceptive pills would double the chance of dangerous blood clots. the news stories mostly did not mention that
doubling
the risk only increased it by one person in 7, 000. the
cell phones cause brain cancer
reports are even sillier, with the supposed increase in risk being at most one or two cancers per 100, 000 people per year. so, if the fearmongers are right, your cellphone has increased your risk from
who cares
to
who cares
.
plenty of disney films, even the princess ones, tell us that family and friendship are just as important as — if not more than — romantic love. frozen is the only one i can think of with so little respect for its audience that it has to beat us over the head with it .
what am i thinking of? for one, all the human disciplines are constructs of human minds: biology, chemistry, geology, physics, mathematics, history, anthropology, linguistics, etc. anything we can say about the human mind must be consistent with its being able to create such monumental constructs .
the truth is that i never could find a safe, comfortable place to sit in that relationship. he never really offered me one. or he would offer me this little toadstool, say that that was all he could give, and then start taking little chunks out of it. what an emotional cripple .
so sorry you went through this, hitthereset! i can relate, my husband also started opening up our marriage at one point – only it was very confusing because he only hinted at us dating other people, and tried to make it sound like a joke when i didn´t respond with the enthousiasm he wanted .
wishful thinking is closely related .
my home in florida is one foot above sea level. therefore i am certain that global warming will not make the oceans rise by fifteen feet .
of course, wishful thinking can also be about positive consequences, such as winning the lottery, or eliminating poverty and crime .
i remember back in college, taking a summer acting class, when i actually made the people around me uncomfortable with my defensiveness. this one time, the teacher was giving me feedback after a scene in front of the whole class. she couldn’t get through a single sentence without me offering some type of argument .
i bring this up because i see the same thing going on in disney’s frozen. we all know that women are underrepresented in film. disney / marvel alone has made a killing at the box office with eight — soon to be nine and counting — massively fun, massively successful superhero films, and not one has been led by a woman. a male - driven superhero film can be mediocre and recover with the next installment in the franchise, but the debate over which superheroine should kick off the women - driven slate of films has been going on for years, because the zeitgeist of the industry means that she will only get one shot .
i agree. lots of men want all short - term highs and then want to move on. i know it might sound absolutely strange but one of the men i really respect (ed) is someone i had a casual fling with – he openly communicated that thats what he wanted, didnt think it was right that i get involved because i am a ‘girlfriend - girl’ and respected the rules that i wanted when i did decide to get involved. plus, when it was time to call quits, he came home, told me that he didnt want to see me anymore because he doesnt feel right anymore. it was an experience that helped me learn that casual sex was not for me – but i did appreciate the fact that he was honest and did see that he had a duty of care towards me (he was a massive man whore though, so i not sure why he was this respectful. . )
williams' fantasia is a classic loser, a tortured soul bound by the past, pathetically unable to escape the present. it' s a riveting performance, one of many in this emotionally complex thriller. and if the finale, inevitably, is a bloody shoot - out, the underlying message, for once, is decidedly upbeat .
kathryn schulz joined the new yorker as a staff writer in 2015. in 2016, she won the pulitzer prize for feature writing and a national magazine award for “ the really big one, ” her story on the seismic risk in the pacific northwest. she is the author of “ being wrong: adventures in the margin of error. ”
little star – i live near and work in central london, i know and have seen many happy couples, but i don’t think that can’t ever be me. it can be you, me or any of us here. one thing i don’t buy is that there aren’t any good men out there. there are plenty we just haven’t met them yet .
but what, exactly, is that cause in “making a murderer”? as of january 12th, more than four hundred thousand people had signed a petition to president obama demanding that “steven avery should be exonerated at once by pardon. ” that outrage could scarcely have been more misdirected. for one thing, it was addressed to the wrong person: avery was convicted of state crimes, not federal ones, and the president does not have the power to pardon him. for another, it was the wrong demand. “making a murderer” may have presented a compelling case that avery (and, more convincingly, dassey) deserved a new trial, but it did not get anywhere close to establishing that either one should be exonerated.
one false move is a 1992 american thriller film co-written by billy bob thornton . the film stars thornton alongside bill paxton and cynda williams and was directed by carl franklin . the low-budget production was about to be released straight to home video when it was finished , but became popular through word of mouth , convincing the distributor to give the film a theatrical release . film critic gene siskel voted this film as his favorite of 1992 . 
one false move is a 1992 american thriller film co-written by billy bob thornton. the film stars thornton alongside bill paxton and cynda williams and was directed by carl franklin. the low-budget production was about to be released straight to home video when it was finished, but became popular through word of mouth, convincing the distributor to give the film a theatrical release. film critic gene siskel voted this film as his favorite of 1992.
one false move is a 1992 american thriller film co-written by billy bob thornton. the film stars thornton alongside bill paxton and cynda williams and was directed by carl franklin. the low-budget production was about to be released straight to home video when it was finished, but became popular through word of mouth, convincing the distributor to give the film a theatrical release. film critic gene siskel voted this film as his favorite of 1992.