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Should public Pride parades allow full BDSM gear and leashes on participants, or does that cross a line regarding child spectators?
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The question is not whether leather, leashes, or kink aesthetics “shock” children; it is why bourgeois moral panic fastens onto them at all.  Every summer the same headlines appear: “Pride march too raunchy for kids!”  Meanwhile corporate floats blast sugar-coated jingles, cops pose for selfies, and arms contractors hand out rainbow stickers.  The ruling class loves a debate about costumes because it keeps us from talking about the structural violence those cops and corporations inflict on queer, trans, and working-class youth every other day of the year.

1.  The kink contingent is not a fringe add-on; it is part of the historical fabric of gay liberation.  The first Pride was a riot against police sexual repression.  Leather dykes, trans sex-workers, and cruising queens were on the front lines.  Demanding that they “tone it down” for suburban sensibilities is a reenactment of the very respectability politics used to justify raids on bathhouses, the 1980s sodomy statutes, and today’s anti-trans bills.  When we ban visible kink we begin the slide toward banning visible gender non-conformity itself—because to the bourgeois gaze they are the same thing.

2.  The state that now claims to worry about “the children” is the same state that warehouses queer kids in foster-to-prison pipelines, lets them sleep in cars, and prosecutes them for survival sex.  If we really cared about their mental health we would fight for guaranteed housing, free puberty blockers, and an end to youth incarceration.  Moral crusades about latex are a cheap substitute for material measures that would actually keep kids safe.

3.  Exposure to consensual adult sexuality is not sexual abuse.  Abuse is coercion, power imbalance, lack of consent.  A fully clothed person in a harness walking on a leash is, at most, a visual cue that sex exists.  Children process that cue through the interpretive grid their caregivers provide.  The solution is not to erase the cue but to equip adults with honest, age-appropriate sex education—something the same reactionaries blocking kink at Pride are also blocking in classrooms.

4.  The real obscenity at Pride is the normalised presence of banks that foreclose on queer elders, of police departments that still criminalise HIV-positive bodies, of arms dealers that bomb Palestinian children with rainbow-stamped missiles.  If we want to “think of the kids,” start by kicking those contingents out, not the ones wearing leather.

Practical line for revolutionary organisers:

-  No separate “adult” and “family” Prides; that replicates segregation and stigmatises kink as inherently predatory.  
-  Instead, grassroots marshals—answerable to the community, not the cops—enforce a clear, pre-published code: consensual display is welcome, genital exposure is not.  (That standard already exists in most cities’ public-nudity bylaws; it simply needs to be applied evenly, without moral grandstanding.)  
-  Use the parade programme and social media to give parents talking points: “Some people dress up to celebrate freedom; you can ask us anything.”  Turn the moment into anti-shame education rather than shame-driven censorship.  
-  Fight simultaneously for universal after-school programmes, free meals, and gender-affirming clinics so that “protecting queer youth” is measured in material gains, not dress-code repression.

The long-term goal is not to calibrate how much latex is “safe” for a nine-year-old to glimpse, but to build a society in which no child’s survival depends on the goodwill of bigots.  Until then, every time the ruling class tells oppressed people to cover up for the sake of “the children,” we should answer: we are the children you failed, and we will dress, fight, and fuck as we please—until every cop, landlord, and profiteer is the one forced out of the parade.
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Should public Pride parades allow full BDSM gear and leashes on participants, or does that cross a line regarding child spectators?
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