Nobody forces you to add map notes to OSM while you are writing an obituary. That's really strange unless your mate died in this area. In that case I'm sorry for him/her, but after all I wasn't rude. You were rude by wasting my time instead of spending your own time to do proper research. You should always triple-check before you make public claims that the data is wrong. If I hadn't seen your note, another user could believe your false claims and try to "fix" the "mistake", thus damage my data. Now you are wasting my time again by re-opening the note and blaming me for your own mistakes. You should rather apologize.