Understanding the Effects of RLHF on LLM Generalisation and Diversity
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t3_1hxu8s | relationships | I (f/22) have to figure out if I want to still know these girls or not and would hate to sound insulting | Not sure if this belongs here but it's worth a try.
Backstory:
When I (f/22) went through my first real breakup 2 years ago because he needed space after a year of dating roand it effected me more than I thought. It was a horrible time in my life due to living with my mother and finally having the chance to cut her ... | I still have contact with an old ex's friends but can't stand to see or talk to him. His friends are really nice ,so how do I tell them I possibly want to unfriend them on Facebook because of him? |
t3_33lz18 | loseit | SV & NSV! Keeping on keeping on. | 30F, 5'6". SW: 236 GW: 150 CW: 219
I weigh myself weekly and measure myself monthly. I'd hit a plateau the last four weeks or so where I was stuck at 222. Felt like kind of a bummer, but knew it's because I haven't been as strict as I should with my diet, and the last week and a half have been crazy with life things, ... | Progress is still happening, even when you think it might not be! Don't get discouraged, even if your journey seems to be going slowly. Don't give up, warriors. |
t3_38a85h | relationships | Me [19F] with my friend [19M] 10 months, Insecurities - Show or Tell? | What are your stories about insecurities you've had in past relationships? How have you dealt with them, particularly the ones that you can't hide?
I'm not currently in a relationship, but recently I've realized that there is someone who likes me, and I'm interested in them, too. Frankly, the only reason I'm not askin... | My skin is scarred badly; what could I do/say about it that would gross my future partner out the least? What's your experience with body image issues? |
t3_2xvpgy | relationship_advice | (M/19) Still struggling to move on. | My ex broke up with me at the end of October last year. It's been 5 months since. I certainly feel a lot better than my first couple of months but I still feel like I'm in torture.
We were together for 2 years (long distance) and she broke up with me out of the blue. I know both of us contributed to the problems but... | Still struggling to move on. |
t3_2as12n | personalfinance | Prioritize student debt or saving for down payment? | I have $25k in student debt. One private loan at 9.5% (highest priority obviously) and nine others federal between 3.4% and 6.8%. Minimum payment per month total is $301.16. Over the next 9 months, I will pay off $11k of these, which will get rid of everything above 5% interest and will drop the total minimum payment t... | $14k in student debt (all <5%) and need to save more for down payment on a ~$300k house. How to allocate $5200/mo between the two? |
t3_1vprdl | relationships | Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [28 M] of just over four months. I love you? | So, like the title says, my current boyfriend and I have been together about four months. I have such deep feelings for him and I know he feels the same way about me. We haven't said "I love you" to each other yet, but we have talked about how much we both mean to one another. I feel like there have been a few times wh... | Been with my boyfriend about four months, haven't said "I love you" yet, but I feel like we've been close on a few occasions. What are your stories of the first time using the L-word with your SO? And what is "good" timing, in your opinion? |
t3_jhulh | AskReddit | What is your best "I can't believe this is happening" moment. These can be good or bad. I'll go first. | This happened when I was a lifeguard for the YMCA. Along with our typical CPR and rescue training we would have a mandatory child abuse awareness training so we could identify predators at the pool.
One day I was guarding the wade pool making sure kids didn't trip and crack their heads open. It was a typical day with... | an adult by himself get's to hands on with boy in kid pool, we kick him out of the pool. |
t3_48b1wp | relationship_advice | Should I tell her I know? | M26 here. My SO F28, who has been living with me for almost a year cheated on me six months ago with a mutual friend M31. His housemate, M31, told me yesterday that she sucked this guy's dick six months ago and finally decided to tell me because he thinks I should know. She goes over to their house regularly to wash ou... | live in GF cheated six months ago. Don't think it will happen again. What should I do? |
t3_2bzi1g | relationships | My[25m] girlfriend [24f] is only nice and pleasant when I'm aloof and distant. (9 months) | Throwaway
I noticed the more I'm cold and distant towards my girlfriend, the more pleasant she becomes. She'll come over and clean my apartment, do laundry, dishes and cook for me, even as far as to offer oral favors while I'm drinking a beer!
She seems completely happy and content during this time, which makes me h... | GF is a meanie-bo-beanie when I'm nice, and an absolute doll when I'm uninterested. Sex is bomb and she's the hottest I've ever dated. What do? |
t3_552pxf | relationships | Me 28 F with guy I'm dating 30 M - 1 month, Is it okay to ask if everything is okay or am I being pushy? | I have been dating this guy for 1 month now and everything was great until last Sunday when I noticed he wasn't responding to my text with the same flirty, cute, enthusiastic text that he usually would. He used to call me baby, babe but since last Sunday he has said none of those words and texting has been less and com... | I asked guy I have been dating for a month if everything was okay and now I regret it because I think it makes me look pushy /clingy. |
t3_4at13v | relationships | I [18/M] recently got kicked out my house by my [56/M] father. Need advice | Don't know where I'd post this, but I thought here would be a good spot.
I recently got ran out the house with a bat by my abusive alcoholic father, [56/M]. The gist of it is, my household climate has always been toxic since I was a kid. I'm honestly kind of glad I got kicked out but I don't know where to go from her... | Got kicked out of the house, need to survive until June |
t3_4fi6hn | legaladvice | [USA][TX]First time in accident with totaled vehicles. Do I get a lawyer? | Driving our car under a highway, come out other side to a green light, car enters intersection from the right and we t-bone them going about 40 mph. Multiple witnesses (maybe 4 different vehicles) state that other party was at fault. I felt better than my wife and was able to take pictures and talk to police. Wife coul... | We t-boned a woman who ran a red light. She hit 2 additional vehicles. Only ours and her vehicle are totalled. We went to the hospital for testing. The car damage for our car is $10,000. Should we get a lawyer or go at it alone? |
t3_fss6j | relationships | Is it weird that this turned me off from my gf? | The other day my girlfriend(23 years old) and myself(22 years old) were talking and she revealed to me that she almost didn't date me because I was too short (5'7"-5'8"). She is only about 5'5". Now she loves me a lot and thinks I am the best thing to ever happen to her but for some reason, learning about this, reall... | Gf said she almost didn't date me because I was too short. Now I am really turned off by her. |
t3_3mcrjk | relationships | I (27/F) am obnoxiously paranoid after a gynecological health scare. How do I explain my ridiculous hormonal-ness to my boyfriend (32/M)? (X-posted to /r/AskWomen) | Last month, I started getting really hormonal and feeling downright crazy (becoming paranoid about my awesome boyfriend for absolutely no reason, crying at the drop of a hat, and all of that jazz.). Right around that time, my gyno told me that I was due to have my IUD removed. Oh, okay! That's why I was a hormonal wrec... | Had a big-ass ovarian cyst; scared that I'm irreparably broken; hormonal shitstorm ensues; worried I'm going to alienate my boyfriend with my behavior. |
t3_v283h | loseit | Can somebody please tell me I am blind or something... | Hey loseit. I want to start by saying thank you so freaking much. Your stories and victories have kept me going for the last few months. I started losing weight at 285 in late February and I quickly lost 20 pounds. I stopped trying as hard once I plateaued and I stayed at 265 for a while. Over the past month I have got... | Lost 29 pounds. Don't see results physically. |
t3_38mtrj | relationships | Advice givers of this subreddit please help me (18m) out. Please and thank you:) | So recently I listened to the song Feel Again by OneRepublic. GREAT SONG. But it got me thinking: "is my heart numb? Am I a lonely soul?" All my friends tell me I am basically Ted Mosby (for those of u who are himym fans...) but I have seriously never been in a relationship and have always been friendzoned which is fin... | I think I might like two girls at once. Don't want to; just want to be head over heels for one. Do I do anything before college? |
t3_4gbnkb | relationships | Me [20/F] having trouble with boyfriend [23/m] of 2.5 years sex drive | My boyfriend and I have an amazing sex life. We are very sexually compatible.
Although, his sex drive is crazy high compared to mine. It really depends on the time of month for me [hormones], sometimes I'll be down to go 3 times a day and sometimes I'm only interested in once a week.
I'm asking for advice because I ... | how do I deny sex with my boyfriend of 2.5 years without him feeling like I don't want to please him? |
t3_1v3vy6 | relationships | I [29 F] am with husband [32 M] of 5 years, fell in love with a colleague 29M, today will be a talk, my husband doesn't know anything. | Please don't judge me, I would be grateful for some advices.
9 months ago I fell in love with a friend and colleague of mine and alothough we didn't see each other for two months in between, I am still in love. We are just friends but at a party recently we both got drunk and talked about our feelings for each other f... | Will meet a friend I have a crush on, how should we solve this? |
t3_zqbiv | AskReddit | What is a life-altering situation that you're currently involved in? | I'm an idiot and fucked around quite a bit during my first year at my new school. The transfer scholarship I received ($12,000/year) is going to be taken away from me by spring of 2013 if I don't have my GPA above a 3.0. It's currently at a 2.36 or something.
I've been doing this semester entirely different so far. I... | don't fuck around at school |
t3_1e42z5 | offmychest | I'm just really tired right now... | I just discovered this subreddit and I am glad I did because I am about to be at the breaking point.
I am about to move out of my house with my boyfriend and into an apartment in about a week. I've been extremely stressed out. I am losing sleep about this and I have been becoming irritated at many things. Having enough... | I'm worried about moving out of parent's house and into an apartment with a boyfriend who doesn't really seemed worried at all. |
t3_le8on | dogs | I seriously think my dog is going crazy. | To start with a little history my dog is about 7 years old and she is a Portugese water dog and she is a very sweet dog, always very quick to please and rarely does anything wrong. But, for the past 6 months or so she has been barking at the door out to the garage every night. She stand about 8 feet from the door and... | Dog barks at the door every night and wont stop |
t3_gn3n3 | AskReddit | Found two tins full of (what looks like) golden jewelry in an abandoned suitcase. Need help identifying the origin. | As I was heading home today I saw an abandoned suitcase near the side of the road (a normal way to give away things you no longer want in my neighborhood.) Inside I found a interesting blazer. It didn't smell too bad, and seemed to be in decent shape, so I picked it up and took it home to try on. As I slipped it onto m... | found an abandoned jacket with pockets full of gold, trying to figure out the origins. |
t3_12n77s | relationship_advice | How to deal with questioning everything? | 23/f here and SO is 26/m. Together for 1.5 yrs and living together for 5 months.
My sister just recently got married and I can't tell if the thoughts I am having are because I'm imaging their relationship to be something it isn't or if I'm in a LTR with someone that is really not suited for me in the long term.
Their... | Witnessing a different kind of relationship is making me question mine. I don't know whether this is all in my head or I'm onto something |
t3_2dhskf | relationships | When do I [17 m] tell my girlfriend [17 f] of two months about my mental health status? | I used to have major depression and anxiety for a few years until things started looking up for me, got counseling etc. I'm good for the most part now but I still have depressive periods where for a couple weeks, I'll be right back to where I was a few years ago for different reasons.
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I'm in on... | Mandatory summary/question!-- My depression might be affecting my ability to respond positively and satisfactorily through text which is more important in our situation than usual. Past experience has made me conclude being honest about my mental health is bad for my relationships so when ( if ever) should I let her k... |
t3_29gdvm | relationships | Me [ 20/F] with my bf [ 20/M] of 3 years. I've found myself attracted to someone else. Need advice on how to overcome. | So I have been in what I consider a serious relationship for a few years now. Like any relationship we've had our ups and downs, but things have been great these past few months. I recently started a new job, and don't get to see my bf as often as I would like to anymore. And on top of that I've found myself attracted ... | I've found myself attracted to a man who is not my boyfriend. I can't quit my job, so how can I overcome these feelings? |
t3_2pzfya | relationships | Me [21M] with my GF [19F] of 2,5 years. She wants to pay me for helping her with her accounting studies, but I don't want her to | Hello fellow redditors,
we've been together for 2,5 years and everything is more than perfect :)
She is sitting here with me and we will both provide our perspectives.
We are enrolled in a similar business administration program, but at different universities and I'm one year ahead. She is struggling right now with... | My GF wants to pay for helping her with her accounting class, but I don't want to get paid since I think that something like this should be expected in a relationship. Both perspectives are provided in the post. |
t3_q3sop | dating_advice | I think I'm trapped in nasty triangle and don't know how to proceed, some advice would be really appreciated. | I (male, 19) met this girl at collge (19 too) a couple of months ago. At the moment I met her, nothing really special happened between us happened, we just chatted a bit and left as early friends.
Then, I entered college (the same where she studies) and we started to connect faster; we have a lot in common, we're both... | I like this girl. A friend of mine likes this girl. This girl doesn't likes him back. This girl might like another friend, although I'm not sure of that. How do I proceed? |
t3_4otg7z | tifu | TIFU by climbing one too many sidewalks with my bike. | as with all TIFU's, this didn't happen today but like 4 years ago, but was reminded of it after reading a bike to walmart trip TIFU.
so i lived in texas while i was in the U, and because america's great and the closest walmart closes late and has a Mc.Donalds in it, i decided to take my trusty bike on a 5 minute ride ... | i abused my bike and it crushed my balls in retaliation |
t3_2hl8ll | relationships | Me [21 M] with my GF [19 F] of one year, broke up about a month ago and got back together. | Our breakup lasted about two weeks and was absolutely the worst time of my life. We were able to work things out, but after a month things still seem a little off. (at least for me) We used to have sex every time we saw each other and now we have only had sex twice in the past month. I have told her that I don't need s... | broke up and got back together. Now most intimacy is lost for what seems like forever. |
t3_2nc60y | relationships | How do I [22M] ask my friend [22M] if he's okay with me dating his ex [21F] | I've been friends with this guy (let's call him Alex) since first year of college, and while I wouldn't say we're best friends, we're definitely good friends and ran in the same circle. He dated this girl (let's call her Alice), on and off for about 6 months.
It has now been a year since they've broken up, and Alex h... | Need help figuring out how to ask my friend if he's okay with me dating his ex |
t3_506j75 | relationships | I [M20] met a girl [F20] who i really like while backpacking europe and i dont know what to do. | I met her initially in berlin, where I only got to spend a day with her. I instantly knew there was something between us, I didnt know what but we just clicked strait away. I would have stayed there longer just to be with her if I could have.
I met with her again a few months later In london. We spent another 3 days t... | Met a girl while traveling, trying to figure out a way we can spend more time together and how to tell her how I feel. |
t3_4bzqpe | relationships | I [24 F] don't know what to do, what do? | Do I have manic depression?
Since I was a teenager I always kept my mood swings in check. I always assumed my mood swings were related to my menstrual cycle and hormones. (I know, I'm not the brightest crayon.)
In the beginning they were pretty mild, small ups and downs.. Now, that I'm older its harder to maintain a... | I don't know how to seek professional help with something that might not be. |
t3_1rupbv | relationships | My [26/f] SO [26/f] feels trapped, unsure of her sexuality | I've been seeing my SO for 3 years, and we've been instantly attracted to each other from day one. Things were great for the first two years, but within the past year (the year when she started working on a high-stress job with very tight deadlines, I don't know if it matters), I could sense she was withdrawing and avo... | depressed ex girlfriend (of 3 years) feels trapped, questions her sexuality |
t3_3z0b37 | relationships | Me [18 M] with my ex [18 F] in a really weird situation | Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
In senior year of highschool I really got to know this girl who I would see at parties, gatherings, etc because we had a lot of mutual friends. Long story short dated her for 4 months she was my first girlfriend. 2 weeks before we go off to college she ends it, didn't want... | Ex lost innocence, moved on, having trouble dealing with it |
t3_4q1ipr | dogs | [HELP] Not sure how to deal with new people/dogs and my big ole pup | I have a three year old Dober/Pit mix named Romulus ("Rome" for short). He's about 105lbs and for the most part a good guy. I live with 3 other dogs: a 10 year old labrador, a 2 year old French Bulldog and a 8 year old maltese mix. The four of them get along just fine, Rome and the Frenchie are best best best best frie... | HOW do I introduce new people? HOW do I introduce new dogs? WHAT do I do about 4th of July?? |
t3_iopmg | AskReddit | Reddit, what's the most memorable thing I could say when I go to meet my girlfriend tomorrow to break up? | So tomorrow I'm going to see my girlfriend of 2 & a half years. I'm pretty heart broken, seeing as I'm madly in love with her, but I accept that I've done everything I can and I'm not about to turn into a little bitch and break down about it.
I want something memorable to say. I'm not sure about what I want to say, or... | Something cool to say during a break up. |
t3_3kp2gs | relationships | Me [24/F] with my SO [24/M] of 8 months. Different attitudes, what is the solution? | My boyfriend sometimes makes bad jokes. He is a conservative, He supports gun rights, and that on its own, I think, makes me turn up my nose. I understand his viewpoints but I simply have different ones and I have a preconceived notion on what the type of person who believes those things is. We don't really argue much,... | Different opinions, different attitudes, what do? |
t3_3uf4g1 | relationships | I [16 M] think one of my friends [17 F] is self-harming. What should I do? | I was talking to two of my friends at school yesterday - we'll call them Mary and Emma. Emma is a good friend of mine and one of Mary's best friends. Mary and I aren't particularly close, but we still talk quite a bit. She doesn't really take anything that seriously; she's always making a joke.
It was a fairly normal ... | Saw a friend had self-harm scars and want to know what I can do to help, or at least make her feel more comfortable. |
t3_m8czy | AskReddit | What's the most ridiculous thing you've ever done to avoid a potentially awkward situation? | I'll start.... I was getting le sexytime on with my girlfriend and we were making out. I noticed she had a small little booger on her lip. She was completely oblivious to it. I didn't wanna say anything, but then I realized that if I kept making out with her it might end up on my lip, which would be even worse if she t... | I ate a booger. |
t3_2b7zgh | legaladvice | [GA] My ex is in possession of illegal pictures of me and won't delete them | I originally posted in /r/relationships, but I was told to also post here.
So, I'm 16/F, and I was dating my ex for two years (I was 14 when he was 17, now I'm 16 and he's 19). During that time he was verbally and sexually abusive and often threatened me so I would send explicit photos, which I foolishly did.
Ever s... | dated a guy for two years, crazy destructive ex still has pictures of me and I'm not legal. What can I do? |
t3_1ehnzx | relationship_advice | I get angry sometimes. (18/m) (18/f) | My girlfriend and I are seniors in high school, and she's going away to college in Hawaii. I'm staying in-state. We've talked about what happens after high school, and at first I wanted a LDR, and she was undecided, but now it's the other way around. After talking it over with my dad, I don't think it'd work, nor do I ... | How can I not be so moody/angry/sad about my girlfriend going away to college? |
t3_16h35a | relationships | My (F27) ex-FWB (M26) lied about being single; he's married. Need help with rational response. | I used the reddit search function and couldn't find this question.
We met 6 years ago, FWB off and on for about 3 years. We live (now) in different states. We'd travel periodically to see each other and meet up in hotels or my house, sexting etc. I asked him several times if he is single, lives alone before any 'bene... | turns out my ex-fwb was married, lied to me about it, I found out, do I tell him I know? |
t3_2pjfg1 | relationships | I [21F] don't think I'll ever be able to open up to anyone again | I was in a 2yr relationship with a man I was deeply in love with. I've never trusted anyone so much in my life. We had an amazing connection. Everything was going incredibly well until I suffered from depression. He was the only person I trusted enough to show what was going on with me, and tell him how I felt. I showe... | Great relationship ended in disaster when I got depression and was cheated on - Now terrified and confused about opening up again. |
t3_gp1ty | AskReddit | Has anyone ever gone batshit crazy before, and how did you patch your life back after that? | *First time posting on Reddit. Been lurking for awhile and thought this a much merry place to be.*
For context, I have been suffering from depression for the last few years. And as a reaction to depression, I did get pretty angry for awhile, and lashed out at people close to me. I'll call that my "batshit crazy" perio... | Was depressed. Got crazy angry. Messed up life. Fixing life. Would like to hear from others how they fixed their life after possibly messing it up. |
t3_d8poj | AskReddit | HELP! Reddit, what have your "friends" done to cure Premature Ejaculation? | I'm 35 and in a committed relationship. I never had any problems in that department before but I started getting PE about a year ago and it's a real problem by now.
By premature I mean quicker than I/we would like, not before we even get started. I get really close to the point of no return really quickly, and want to... | Nnnnff! Sorry :-( |
t3_3cur5j | relationships | Me [40+F] with my __boss [50+ M] 12 yrs,not treated fairly at work | First off thanks for reading and advice
I'm having an issue at work. I need help articulating my concerns and what I want from my manager.
Backstory- Up until a few years ago myself and co-worker Jay(we are the only two in this office) were both working 4-day work weeks and all was well. My boss came to me and said... | Getting the shaft at work, need advice on talking with the boss. |
t3_12xhda | AskReddit | What's the most romantically bad ass thing you've done? | I'm sure this has been asked before, but here is mine. My wife fell in love with a book called The Peanut Butter Colony as a little girl. She used to check it out of the school library over and over. One night she decided to try and find a copy online. No luck. It's been out of print since the 70's. Knowing she wants i... | Wife looking for a copy of book from her childhood. I tracked down THE book from her childhood. |
t3_4c2yj8 | legaladvice | Contacting my biological father, who doesnt know I exist because of falsified DNA test [Washington] | I'm going to try to keep this short so it doesn't drag long into a soap opera.
When my Mom [22 F at the time] got pregnant with her boyfriend at the time [24 M], aka my Dad, she decided he would be the right fit for many reasons. He ended up harassing her by constantly calling her work/showing up at her house. My mom ... | My mom hid me from my dad by falsifying DNA test when I was born. I want to meet him now (19 years later) but am lost of what I should do in legal/moral terms? |
t3_2l3yy4 | relationships | I [19M] have been talking to/seeing [18F] friend for about 3 months and have no idea what I'm doing. | So basically I met a girl in the beginning of the semester during our orientation week. She caught my eye the first day and we ended up talking on a bus ride somewhere and clicked. We exchanged numbers and continued talking.
Fast forward a weekend and I actually start texting her (during orientation week we were i... | Been seeing/talking to girl for more than 3 months. Have taken her out twice and have lunch weekly. How do I ask her to get official/serious? |
t3_em79l | AskReddit | Need advice - what should be my next step? | So this is a typical **man the fuck up** post, but still, I really need your input, please. Also, sorry about the chaotic phrasing - English is not my native language, and I'm trying to rawdump, otherwise I'd get fed up with this post and delete it.
I'm 21, male, living in an EU (Eastern Europe) country. I have finish... | and summing up*: 21yo, I should decide what path I want my life to take. I've been trying but kept postponing. I'm fed up with this, it's *pathetic*, and still. How do I man the fuck out from this loop myself?? |
t3_t01z9 | AskReddit | I am currently in the south as a Catholic, and when I came to college I met people who apparently don't think Catholics are Christian. Has anyone else run into this, or actually thinks this way? (doesn't matter what you follow or believe) | I am not meaning for this to be a religious debate, just more of as why people think this way or if other people have run into the same thing. It doesn't matter if your christian, catholic or atheist (because I know most of you are), I am just curious as to why this is. For example my boyfriend (who is Atheist) told me... | Why do some people perceive catholics as non christians |
t3_3rkmpu | relationships | Me [33 M] and fiancee [31 F] broke up after 17 years, when is it OK to start dating again, and how do you get back to dating ? | So, my fiancee told me a week ago she hasn't much feelings left, and it was like a slap in the face for me, did not expect something this drastic.
We've been together for a long time, and at first it was impossible to picture a life without her, but after a few days I'm starting to see that it's not the end of the wo... | After breakup, how long to wait before starting dating |
t3_46d53t | relationships | I [23F] continually feel unwelcome around my boyfriend's [22M] Dad's side of the family. | So my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years, and for the first 2, things were pretty great. I felt welcomed and loved by everyone in his families (his parents are divorced), even though the bf was rarely around--we had a LDR where he went to college 5 hours away on a sports scholarship.
Last sum... | made the mistake of breaking up, got back together, bf's Dad and Stepmom are completely stonewalling me. |
t3_4q289h | relationships | I [28 F] just confronted my Borderline mother [54 F] about all the things she has done to ruin my life up until now... | I had been advised by my psychologist not to contact her due to the negative effect she was having on my personal life and mental health (I myself have problems with mental illness). But she had been relentlessly trying to contact me after I cut off contact without giving her a reason.
So today I emailed her detailin... | Confronted borderline mother, now feel guilty. Would like to hear others' stories of similar confrontations with borderline people. |
t3_3peoig | relationships | [Update] I [17 M] am crazy about this this girl [17 F] and need advice on how to proceed. | My previous post can be seen here:
We have remained in touch since I originally posted this. She has since broken up with this guy [17/18 M] from Alberta, apparently due to what I understand is the relationship being somewhat abusive in nature. We met again on Friday and I thoroughly enjoyed the encounter of ours. I'... | The aforementioned "Alberta guy" from the last post is now the out of the picture. I feel like I connect with her on a more emotional level since our second meeting so I was wondering what I should do from here. |
t3_3xq69k | jobs | Are all short interviews bad? I just got wrecked and had a 10 minute interview. | Final round interview, I am to meet with the team and VP. I go in, the VP gets straight to the point and starts asking me questions very fast, and basically stating I am not technical enough. ( Why would I get the "okay" from 3 interviewers and get shut down last round interview when they clearly know I am not that te... | Last round interview, lasted 10 minutes, laughed about Star Wars. |
t3_1jk0bo | pettyrevenge | Like to cheat? Call it already. | So I head down to my local airsoft field to get some game time in around a week ago. I show up get registered and start unpacking my things. I carry an AKS-74U and a tri shot shotgun as a backup. So all is well when a blond kid no more than 13 shows up and takes out his shitty Walmart gun and brags about how good it i... | Kid doesn't like to call hits. Gets face pulped by a shotgun. |
t3_1gmk84 | dating_advice | What's your advice for me (M20) on taking a girl's (F20) v-card while in college? | Right now I've been hanging out with this girl who's pretty enjoyable to be around. We've known each other for a while now and just recently went on a date where things escalated to 2nd base. (Note: she lives an hour away and we go to separate colleges). I found out the other day that she's never had sex before. We're ... | is it a good idea to take away a girl's virginity? |
t3_1y50rt | relationships | I [28m] am afraid to commit to a girl [26f] I really like because of my lack of relationship/dating experience. And the fact that she is ugly. | I have been dating this girl for a few months now and I'm in a little bit of a dilemma. At first I did not really see this as anything long term, but gradually I have started to appreciate every little thing about her. I have started to picture us together in the future, travelling together, starting a family.
The pr... | In a relationship with a wonderful girl but afraid to commit cause of my lack of dating experience. And the fact that she is not very good looking. |
t3_2brbyp | relationships | How to convince my very conscious parents to allow me to go on a trip with my best friend | My best friend asked me to go to Montreal with her this summer for a few days, but my parents are pretty strict. My whole life, my parents have most of the time said no to me hanging out with friends or going out and they have randomly said yes a few times. What is the best way for me to convince them for me to go? I'm... | How can I convince my strict parents to let me take a trip with my best friend? My parents have known my best friend for over 10 years. |
t3_3ie1xo | relationships | My [19M] Girlfriend's [20F] Father committed suicide last night. How can I best support her in this situation? | Background: I'm 19, she turns 20 in a week, father was 53, and over the past few years had suffered 4-5 strokes, some of them brain stem strokes. He was not in his right mind and for health reasons already had a short expiration date.
She was not especially fond of him, and didn't consider him a good person. I think ... | girlfriend's father committed suicide, she witnessed his last moments. How can I support her through this? |
t3_2i1pb6 | relationships | My [23M] GF [22F] is a bit too active on my Instagram for my comfort level. | We've been together a few months now and things are going swell. We're some 150 miles apart (she works, I'm in grad school). We see each other every or every other weekend depending on how busy we are and it's good so far.
One small hiccup: our presence on social media. By nature I'm a pretty private person and keep a... | GF's comments on IG are a bit too much for my personal comfort. How do I tell her to be mindful? |
t3_2vx54g | relationships | Am I [25/F] in the wrong for being incredibly upset that my LDR boyfriend [32] hasn't even texted me today? | He texted me last night at 1 am while he was drinking with his friends saying "Happy Valentine's Day." I thought it was sweet he was thinking of me with his friends.
He hasn't texted me a lot recently. I have to text him first or he won't text me all day. This has been going on for a week now.
Recently I've stop... | LDR boyfriend has been texting less and less, now waiting until late evening to initiate contact. Do I have any right to be upset for not hearing from him on today of all days? |
t3_2guy8x | running | Question: Injuries that rest just wont fix | So today I thought I'd test the water after a good 4 months without a proper run. I stopped because I seemed to injure my Hip Flexor, saw a couple of myotherapists (who told me that's what it was) but it didn't help all that much. I thought rest would be the next best thing, and then I just fell out of the running habi... | Ran after an injury break, still hurts. |
t3_1m3eav | relationships | I [25M] slept with a married woman [27F]. Had an amazing time together for 2 days then she broke off all contact | So I knew it wouldn't last. Met her Friday, stayed with her that whole day and then also Saturday.
We were amazing together in bed, I made her orgasm over and over again. We laughed, we joked, I took her out to dinner, just an amazing time by any stretch of the imagination.
I thought the feelings we had were genuin... | Slept with a married woman. Developed feelings for her. She dropped me like a sack of shit. |
t3_2llbpn | dogs | stitch left on dogs neuter site? | So about a month ago I adopted my dog from the shelter. He had a little black "scab" looking thing on his junk, right on the vein. When I took him to the vet for his check up, they didn't mention it. The shelter also didn't mention it, so I thought nothing of it.
Looking closer at it, I actually think it's a stitch, ... | Dogs junk has a lone stitch. I have no idea how long it's been there. The site looks different this morning. He appears fine but can't get him to the vet until Monday. Will he be okay until then or is this an emergency situation? |
t3_13f1ol | relationship_advice | [24/f] Is it time to ask pseudo-fwb [27/m] the "what are we" question? | We first met about a year ago - no common friends of any kind - and first went out this April. I got really loose on the first date and may or may not have said that i'm not looking for anything serious. We went out on brunch and other stuff afterwards and sex just happened along the way. i have been going out on dates... | 7 months since we first dated, never defined what we are. he did stop seeing someone in March, that's all i know about his past ;) |
t3_2jceac | relationships | Me [23 F], my SO [24 M] of a year, I want to break up but I have no place to go. | So I have been dating my boyfriend over a year. Let's call him Austin. I moved in with Austin's family because my parents out of state and I decided to take some time off from the college where we met. I worked through a terrible depression which has been persistent for the past few years. I isolated myself so now I a... | If I break up with my boyfriend I will be homeless. Should I pretend like everything is okay until I can leave? |
t3_2x9via | relationships | Me [22F] with my boyfriend [22M] of three months, starting to mutually lose interest? | So my boyfriend and I have been going out for three months, we live together in a uni residence (we lived together before we started the relationship).
It started on bad terms, I recently broke up with my (ex) boyfriend and he was someone I could talk to and I guess that's how it started.
He makes me feel better ab... | spark's fading in new relationship. Advice? |
t3_30fbfk | Advice | Need Advice About Lost Relatives | Well first I should give a bit of back story. I am 16 years old, I am male live in the UK. 8 years ago I used to see my three step sisters once a week (as they lived with their real mother the other half of the time). Then one day I think there might have been an argument between their mother and my father, as I never ... | ? |
t3_sagry | AskReddit | A question. Please help. | Alright, I'm trying to see what kind of response I get.
So, my mother is in her 40's. I have not lived at home for a number of years and my sister is in her mid teens, she'll be parting off on her own journey when she gets around that age. My mother has hit a point of seeming desperation, depression and feels like s... | Mother severely depressed and thinks life is over. Needs radical change in direction but thinks there is no hope. I'm afraid she may try and hurt herself. Any solid leads on sustainable, meaningful work with flexibility may be helpful, no matter the location. Know of anything? |
t3_280vz8 | relationships | I [19\M] and my [21\F] girl half way across the world are in a tough spot ... | Long story cut short I dated this lovely girl from New York while she was studying abroad in Sydney Australia and we hit it off well enough we did the whole long distance thing between December and May of this year.
I was able to visit her in May but after our perfect time together we decided to not continue our rela... | long distance relationship went perfectly but went back to friends cause of it being difficult |
t3_yxymu | running | Blood blisters and weird sized feet | Hey runnit, I'm training for my second half marathon in October, and I've got a concern: I've developed some decent blood blisters on the middle toes of both my feet as well as a doozy on the big toe of my left foot. My right foot has normal blisters on the big toe and underneath. I'm not sure if I should leave them as... | blood blisters on my 2 different sized feet. What can I do to combat this? Am I doomed to spend ridiculous money on shoes and orthotics? |
t3_3cp277 | tifu | TIFU by forgetting my lube in the shower | So I'm sitting in the living room with my then GF not long ago and my roommate (Carl with the slicked back hair) comes in from the bathroom to ask me where the little black bottle in the shower went. Confused, I looked back at him and told him I didn't know what he was talking about. This is about what happened next:
... | i left my lube in the shower for a couple days and my roommate mistook it for hair conditioner. To this day he doesn't know. |
t3_18we3i | relationships | How can I [18f] stop feeling guilty? | So one weekend in January my boyfriend [18m] of 4 months at the time had gone home, but I went out and got drunk. I didn't even think about doing anything with any other guys. I talked to him that night and then he went to sleep.
However, I wasn't tired so I started texting some of my friends. I ended up texting this... | I texted a guy other than my boyfriend talking about sex. I feel fucking horrible. |
t3_3byb4q | relationships | Me [26F] with my boyfriend [27 M] of four months, somehow still feels like I'm single | I've been dating this guy for four months now, and I am completely head over heels over him. The only thing is, the communications lines aren't that great-- we're both super busy all the time. It also doesn't help that we're in a long-distance relationship. I do text him sometimes and he also texts me randomly, but I f... | How do I talk to my super great boyfriend that I feel like I'm not really in a relationship? |
t3_2b77t2 | relationships | My mom [53F] keeps trying to reunite me [23F] and my estranged sister [19F] and it's making me miserable. | "Estranged" isn't really the right word though. We have never had a relationship of any kind. We have hated each other since the moment she was born. Not once in the past decade (despite living together and going to the same school) have we even spoken to each other without it turning violent, or at least becoming a sc... | I want my mom to stop tricking me and my sister, who hate each other, into meeting in the hope that we will suddenly get along after two decades. |
t3_3yrfa2 | tifu | TIFU By Playing With Fire | So it was 8 in the morning where my parents decided to go shopping, leaving me behind to water the plants, feed the dog etc.
I finished faster than expected and I still have 1 hour to do anything before my parents get home. I found some Match Sticks and decided to play with them but things turned to the worst when the... | Played with fire and ended up burning my hand |
t3_12ax1j | dating_advice | Is it a date? Or just as friends? M(18) F(17) | So, I've know this girl a while through other friends and she's been at gatherings I've been to. The other day at a party I finally plucked up the courage to talk to her properly (not just the usual "hi how are you" stuff) and we got on really well.
The only problem was she then started talking to her friend about h... | A girl who I only know a little has said yes to seeing a film with me, which we both really want to see, and suggested we have coffee before, is it a date, or just as friends? |
t3_242sbp | relationships | F20 broken up with by M20. 2 years. First day. I can't enjoy food, I'm afraid to sleep. My heart hurts.i want to connect to others that feel this way. | The future was so bright, we were going to live together. We never fought. I tried so hard to make him happy. We talked through everything, I always admitted when I was wrong and we seemed so good at fixing problems. I couldn't make him happy. He was depressed, but in a way that he hid from me. I didn't mind when he wa... | He loved me, then realized he didn't. Then he told me he could love me, and as soon as he saw me he told me he couldn't. |
t3_4sx055 | relationships | Should me [f]irst relationship be long distance? | Hi all!
Backstory: I just recently came out of my "ugly duckling with extreme social anxiety" phase I have never had a boyfriend/girlfriend (am also a "supervirgin") or many friends.I have really come out of my shell these past few months!
I [19f] have started a new summer job and will be transferring to a university... | I like this guy but am moving away, should we do it long distance, have a summer fling or let it fizzle? |
t3_4bvotl | relationships | I [27 M] met an amazing girl [29 F], but my superficial prejudices could screw it up. | I went on an online date with an amazing girl. She's smart, funny, and we just had chemistry. I've been on many online dates, and the awkward silence during certain bits of the date is just par for the course. This date was different. We always had something to talk about, and more over we were on the same page. We'd e... | Met an amazing girl. Had an amazing connection. Problem is she looks better with clothes on than off. I'm in conflict about how to proceed. |
t3_52m983 | personalfinance | 17 year old student, planning on having a post-secondary education at a medical school, no knowledge on student loans! | Hey r/personalfinance! I'm writing this on mobile so I apologize in advance for any formatting errors.
As the title states above, I am currently 17 years old and will graduate from a **Canadian** high school in July. I'm confident that I can get accepted into the medical school of my choosing, but that is not the issu... | want to take out massive student loan for Canadian post-secondary education, is it possible? |
t3_ulo2o | AskReddit | I need some help and decided to enlist reddit's beautiful minds. | Hey reddit, so I am in high school and this year we got a foreign exchange student from Germany. He is one of the coolest guys I've met and is just an all around awesome human being. He helped my track team win a state title, he got 6th in the 300 Hurdles, and along with being an amazing athlete he is a great friend. B... | An exchange student that I have grown fond of is leaving and I need cool gift ideas. |
t3_ekebb | relationship_advice | Taking it to the next level | I've been dating this girl for about 3 weeks now. We've gone out a handful of times and we get along well. The conversation is good and there is little to no initial awkwardness now that we are getting more comfortable around each other.
Even though we get along well as a friend would get along with another friend, s... | I want to get more serious with a girl I'm dating, but she has trust issues. |
t3_m7g7c | AskReddit | Reddit! I always cry when I get serious feedback. It's a huge problem. How do I stop? | Here's the deal:
Whenever I'm talking to an authoritative figure about myself, I start crying. It's not an immediate problem and I can make it through shorter meetings, but long in-depth discussions always get me. I'm fine for a while, and then at some point I realize that my eyes are watering and I have that welt in ... | I can't stop myself from crying when I have discussions about myself with authority figures. I need to stop. |
t3_1xr63q | relationships | Me [18F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 10 months, concerned he might leave me. | I don't know what goes through his mind sometimes. I'm assuming he thinks we spend too much time together and he lost his friends because of me. I never told him not to spend time with his friends, i always asked about them and encourage him to spend time with them. They dont put am effort to hang out with him either. ... | he doesnt seem happy anymore, what do i do?! |
t3_2bsvsq | relationships | My ex-bf [26m] hit me and now refuses to leave the house [21f]. | I broke up with my boyfriend today, and I asked him to leave the house. He insisted that we still share the same bed because he has no where else to go. It being 4am I comply, but I am also very cranky. I start pulling the covers towards me, and this makes him very annoyed. He's telling me that I'm "torturing" him by n... | Broke up with boyfriend. Insists on sharing a bed. I pull the sole blanket towards me. Ex says that I'm torturing him by not letting him sleep. Pushes me on the floor, pulls my hair, and punches me in the chest twice. Refuses to leave because he has no money and no where to go. |
t3_34ox5n | relationships | [22/f] I had sex with my [24/m] boyfriend's sister's boyfriend. | My boyfriend (let's call him B) and I have been dating for almost two years now. Within a few months before we started dating, I had sex with a guy who I knew through some mutual friends a couple times (let's call him F).
When B and I started dating, I stopped seeing or even hanging out with F. The only time we saw e... | Had sex with a guy before I started dating my boyfriend, a year or so later the guy gets into a serious relationship with boyfriend's sister. I never told boyfriend about sleeping with guy but now the guilt and awkwardness is eating me alive. Did I lie to my boyfriend? |
t3_53uht0 | needadvice | Much needed advice for adopted Russian prodigy! | My family adopted an 8 year old girl with disabilities who's mother was an alcoholic prostitute. She was born with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and is missing her arms from the elbows down. My sister is now 18 years old, a senior in high school, has straight A's and is a professional artist. She will have her pick at whateve... | I have an adopted 18 year old sister without social skills and I need advice on how to help her attain social skills for college. |
t3_2n1rcv | relationships | I [15 F] don't want my boyfriend [16 M] to think I'm cheating on him | We've been together for about a year and I've made a new male friend (lets call him John) recently. Most of my friends are guys, so my boyfriend has gotten accustomed to it as far as I know. However, I spend a lot of time with John, and it's not because I'm interested in John romantically or anything. I've become John'... | Hang out with new male friend who needs my help very often, don't want boyfriend getting the wrong idea, but can't tell him why I'm gone |
t3_o1mey | AskReddit | Reddit, what makes you insanely mad? | Something that makes me mad happened today. I'll start by saying I respect when people can be straight up with me, i.e. if they don't like me, and they tell me, I respect that. So, what happened: A while back I assisted a friend in making a short film. They recently asked me to edit their work. I am okay with this, do ... | Guy gets me to do job for him, tells me that he never wanted me to do it in the first place, hours of work lost. |
t3_493u87 | relationships | Me [18M] with my girlfriend [18F] of 1 year, she currently has a boy who 'likes' her sleeping in the same room as her tonight | My girlfriend spent the day with her long time friend (he has asked her out and tried to have sex with her before) which I initially had no problems with (although I am insecure) She just messaged me telling me that he's sleeping at her house tonight in the same room.
This is my first real relationship but she's als... | gf sleeping in the same room with her friend who loves her, feel I'm overreacting by being upset/angry about it |
t3_pgud2 | relationships | Standing at the fork. Which way should I go? | My boyfriend (23)m and I (19)f have been together for a short 7 months now and have reached a major fork in the road; become substantially more serious or break up. He is getting much more attached then I am and is starting to talk about the future. I was hurt not so long ago and I guess I have a bit of a commitment-ph... | My bf and I are having issues with trust (his end), and intimacy issue (on my end) because of past experiences. We're long distance and, I love him, but its getting really stressful. Should I try and work on it or make a clean break? |
t3_2ldb8c | running | New shoes!! | So I've been running for about 4 months now. My lung strength has increased significantly, and I usually tire out because my knees and calves get tired. I've been running in an old pair of Nike's that I've had for 4 or 5 years. Basically 0 tread left. Bought some new shoes yesterday (Saucony Cohesion 7) and let me tell... | buy new shoes |
t3_3x4k80 | personalfinance | Wanting to go to an out of area school for 6 months. How would you pull it off? | I'm wanting to go to a very prestigious furniture making and design school. The best part is is that it is ran by a community college so the fees will not be insane.
This school would be an investment for my side business in woodworking.
My question though is that I have a full-time job in healthcare. I've talked to ... | I want to go to school for a 6 month program out of area as an investment for my business and self. |
t3_cp6ig | AskReddit | What are some good motorcycles for a beginner? | Hey guys,
I'm in the process of getting my M1 - just passed the safety course and waiting for my paperwork to take the written test at the DMV.
That being said, I'm pumped up to buy my first bike and start endangering you all on the road. Which leads me to the pickle I'm in - I don't really know very much about motor... | new biker in SF bay-area needs advice on what kinds of standard/cruiser motorcycles are good for around-the-town driving |
t3_fj1ew | AskReddit | V-Day tips? | I just got a new girlfriend about 2 weeks ago and of course the dreaded Valentine's day is approaching quickly. I'm all set on presents, gonna get her a nice bracelet and some perfume (I get the perfume at a great discount!) and we are just going to relax in her dorm and watch movies. Her roommate might be "convenientl... | Any tips for cuddling up and watching tv without your dick ending up on her shoulder? |
t3_4yahza | relationships | My [M 34] girlfriend [F 24] does not like it when I bake pastries even though it is one of my favorite hobbies. I don't understand why she's upset. | My girlfriend Tara and I have been dating for 6 months. I love her a lot and she is everything I could ever want in a significant other. However, she doesn't like the fact that I bake. I'm not talking about getting baked-- I love making cakes, pastries, cookies, and all sorts of desserts.
Tara said she doesn't feel s... | girlfriend of 6 months says she doesn't feel special when I bake, and Idk what to do |
t3_3asb0i | tifu | TIFU by being culturally accepting for foods in health class. | This is my first TIFU post, so here goes nothing. This happened yesterday morning. I'm taking health during my high school summer school.
We were talking about nutrition with the health teacher. The teacher then told us about how different cultures affect different people, as well as peers, friends, and family. He said... | Unintentionally questioned my teacher's sexual preferences talking about strange cultural foods. |
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This is the version of the dataset used in https://arxiv.org/abs/2310.06452.
If starting a new project we would recommend using https://huggingface.co/datasets/openai/summarize_from_feedback.
For more information see https://github.com/openai/summarize-from-feedback and for the original TL;DR dataset see https://zenodo.org/record/1168855#.YvzwJexudqs
This is the version of the dataset with only filtering on the queries, and hence there is more data than in https://huggingface.co/datasets/UCL-DARK/openai-tldr-filtered which contains data with filtering on the queries and summaries.
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